Twitter @ImMartinOywa|7th August,2017.
Have you ever asked yourself what self-esteem is? Some have and some haven’t right? Right. So self-esteem is the positive or negative evaluation of oneself; as in a judgement of oneself as well as an attitude towards oneself. Low self-esteem is the most common cage which most of us have been in, and based on research carried out worldwide, researchers found out that it results from various factors which include; genetic factors, physical appearance or weight, mental health issues, socio-economic status, peer pressure or bullying.
- Heavy self-criticism and dissatisfaction.
- Hypersensitive to criticism with resentment against critics, and feelings of being attacked.
- Chronic indecision and exaggerated fear of mistakes.
- Excessive will to please and unwillingness to displease any petitioner.
- Perfectionism, which may lead to frustration when perfection is not achieved.
- Neurotic guilt, dwelling on or exaggerating the magnitude of past mistakes.
- Floating hostility and general defensiveness and irritability without any proximate cause.
Most of the characteristics individuals with low self-esteem based on pessimism and a general negative outlook on things. The only way to deal with low self-esteem is positivity and always keeping an open mind. Through these we will be able to breakout our shells and become the people we always wanted to be. Even though it’s going to be a tough journey, it’s still worth it. Nobody else has the power to weigh us down but us, so we need to change our negative views on ourselves and start seeing the beauty which was hidden from us by pessimism and negativity.
No matter which factors or characteristics we may have which we think should weigh us down, we must know that we are worth living, and the sooner we realise the, the better our lives will start being for us. Just as Pauline Lutheran’s doctrine of ‘Justification by Faith’ states;
“The courage to be is the courage to accept oneself, in spite of being unacceptable.”
Thank you for reading this article, and have a wonderful week.
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